“Why do you love me?” This is a question that frequently follows when one of us says I love you to the other (Lisa asks “why” the most). It is quickly asked but with real meaning each time, why? Sometimes the answer is the same, sometimes it is different, but it is important because we always ask. I know I have been talking about why so much lately but it is one of the most important things in our relationship today and each new day. This is a very different why, however, to what I have been talking about. This is not the “Why are we who we are as a couple?, or “Why have we done the things we do?” This is truly a simple “Why do we love each other?” As long as we can answer this “why”, we know we are happy at that very moment. Even if it is a day spent working together, a day spent driving each other crazy, a day spent cuddled by a fire, a day spent without sleep taking care of a sick baby, a day spent traveling, or a day spent apart, if we can answer this “why” it means we are doing what we want to in life. Together.
Why do we work seven days a week? Why did we quit our jobs 4 years ago? Why are we crazy enough to work from home with a 16 month old running under our feet? Why do we travel with a toddler? Why do these amazing people believe so much in our work? Why do you love me?
What if I told you that no answer can define or secure your relationship together? It is in fact about the journey together that defines your relationship and your why. Each couple’s answer to why they love each other is different. Questioning the “why” will make sure we think about what we are doing, but it is our actions that define our relationship. It is when we have what could be described as a terrible experience together, and decide to whisper into the love of our life’s ear and let her know that even that little bit of crazy can not stop us. You tell her we have each other and that is all that matters. It is listening to your partner when all you want to do is escape your reality too. So many people describe love and happiness through sacrifice, but I define my “why” as a desire for constant together. It means I want to be with you even when I can not be. Even when I am happy and alone, I want you by my side.
Dave and Lindsay seeing your passion towards each other was exhilarating in Point Reyes. I still chuckle about being almost blown over multiple times on the beach, but you did not let that stop you being happy. You would both quietly hold each other tightly,and then pull apart just enough to stare longingly into the other’s eyes and show not just each other, but Lisa and I as well, how much you love each other. There was this passion in how you held each other that filled our hearts as the burning sun set on North Beach there at Point Reyes National Sea Shore. We both knew you two loved each by the way you laughed and giggled when we first met you both at our house, but wow you blew us away at your engagement session. I am not going to lie that I laugh and smile each time I go through these photos and see you both playing with the little flower that you picked as you cuddled in the grass. Plus how could we forget hanging out with all the free ranging cows so close to the ocean. Your playful banter, and passionate demeanor is what makes you the couple that you are. Thank you so much for sharing your love for each other with us. Without you, the relationship Lisa and I have would not be as strong as it is today. Each new couple shows us something different about this thing we call love, and you allowed our hearts to be filled that windy day at Point Reyes, and still today.
Thank you! Thank you so much for exploring the shores of Point Reyes with us for your engagement session!