Life is about balance for me. I have learned time after time that I would be a complete wreck if I did not have it in my life. I focus on business, Lisa focuses on design, I cook our meals, Lisa cleans up the mess I make, I want to plan, and she wants a surprise, it is just balance. This list could go on forever, sorry. It is funny to look back, but balance is a huge part of what I always needed in my life. Balance helps create harmony in so many peoples lives. To me, marriage is all about this crazy thing — who would have known? It most certainly has taken me a few years to realize that without balance you are in an endless argument with yourself. You have to let go and just let life be harmonious. You can’t always be on the receiving end of a relationship, and sometimes you may only be on what seems to be the giving end of a relationship, but the balance in both is what makes the journey all worth while. I look back at times where I thought I was the only one giving but once I had time to look back and reflect I was able to see that both sides were giving and taking in different ways. I was right and I was wrong. (Even though we both only wanted to be right.) Time, and a patient wife, have let me see that. Some of us give more while some of us take more, some are more emotional, or the crier, the lover, the fun one, the outgoing one, the quiet one, the passionate one, the determined one, the loud one, or in my case, the one with the laugh that everyone remembers, but we are all degrees of these and in our partner we find our balance and our equal. I see that my wife is my balance, my opposite emotion when I need her to be, and the same emotion when I need her. Balance doesn’t always mean that you have someone who is the opposite creating harmony, but that you have someone creating balance and harmony through both opposing, and being the same positive pole that you feel or need at any given time. Sadness sometimes needs sadness and sometimes needs happiness to balance it in life. You never know which it is but a great partner is the one you need at that time. You may just not realize it right away. My wife does this for me and sometimes I think she doesn’t know she does this. You do!
All this being said when you hear Chris and Marissa talk about each other, balance comes up a lot in their relationship. She is the right brain, he is the left. She is the artist, and he is the smooth talking state assembly consultant. They find balance in their adventures, in their home together, in life and in work together. They just love having fun together. When we talked about locations that are special to them, they did not come up with a place but an idea. The idea that they have so much fun traveling, flying, and going on adventures together led us to shoot their engagement session at a little air strip with some old vintage airplanes. Getting permission to shoot there was an adventure for them, getting to the spot was an adventure in so many ways for all of us, and the shoot was an adventure of these two slowing life down even for just over an hour to fall in love all over again with each other. It didn’t stop there as they were off to meet friends after this to have yet another adventure, an evening out and about. Thats what life is about for these two. Never stopping and making sure every moment together is a journey to the next adventure. It makes me wonder what is more fun; the adventure or the time in between spent getting to the next adventure. I know the answer is both, because it is the adventures with their family and friends that they love, and the journey together that makes them push each other into the next adventure.
Thank you again for letting us capture who you two are, we could not be more thankful and inspired by you. Thank you for making me think about the balance I have in my own life.